I was chatting with Dale Chumbley about Facebook Pages and how we’re both using them to reach out to our respective communities when he touched on an interesting topic… He said about 1/3 of the folks who became “fans” of his page were not his “friends” yet on Facebook.
I’ve had a few conversations on this topic lately and I’ve boiled down the different types of social media relationships into the four most common types and given a bit of an explanation about the implicate meanings behind each type:
1) No connection. This one seems to be obvious… but there could be a number of reasons you don’t connect with folks. Most of the time it’s because you simply don’t know them, but maybe it’s because you don’t like them, don’t think they’ll add value to your network or, even worse, view them as spam.
2) Follow. This is the Twitter model and the connection is probably one of the “weakest” ones out there. You could have any number of reason to follow someone and it’s completely one-way. There’s no reason to expect that just because you follow someone that they’re going to follow you back, be interested in you, or even take time to learn anything about you.
3) Fan. This is the model used by Facebook Pages. While functionally it is identical to a “follow” connection (i.e. a one-way connection with no reverse interest implied whatsoever), there’s a value judgement implied when you become a fan of someone. Whereas it often only takes one interesting tweet to get me to “follow” someone, it takes a bit more before I’ll become a “fan” of someone.
4) Friend. This is the model used by Facebook Profiles, Digg and many other social networking sites… and clearly implies (and most likely requires) a two-way relationship. However, the term is so often abused (I’m just as guilty as anyone else of becoming “friends” with people I’ve never met and am likely never to meet) because I thought I might find some value to having them in my “network” in the long run.
Similar to Dale, a little over 1/3 (30 out of 85) of the people who have become “fans” of my Page are not “friends” with my personal Profile. This tells me that based on their actions, a fair number of folks feel more comfortable becoming “fans” than “friends” with someone they don’t know.
Almost all of these people are professionals I *would* have connected with on Facebook (via a “friendship”) in the past, but I’m so much happier to have them separated on my business page so I can begin to do a better job separating my work life from my personal life.
Also interesting is that from a marketing perspective these relationships imply different levels of business outreach. When someone becomes a “fan” of my business page that definitely implies an “opt in” to a certain level of marketing that is not necessarily part of being a “friend”… or even a “follower”.
If you’re ready to explore how different professionals are using Facebook Pages, start following (i.e. become a fan!) of these pages:
And while you’re exploring, you should probably also check out the page I created for my listing syndication tool.
Laura 10:06 am on March 21, 2009 Permalink |
I figured out how to “Show Hidden Friends” (and I feel like a bit of an idiot that it took me this long): at the bottom of the news feed, in the box that you click for “Older Posts” there is a link that says “See Hidden Friends” – and ALLEGEDLY this offers the option to “Add to News Feed”; however, these links seem to be non-functioning at present.
So my Hidden Friends are doomed to remain Hidden until this is resolved.
Molly Duffy 8:18 pm on February 17, 2010 Permalink |
Hey Kids, I think my friend may have hid me. Is there any way I can tell if she hid me? let me know if anyone has anything?
Whitney 5:48 pm on March 31, 2009 Permalink |
Hopefully Laura reads this again. In order to get my friends off their hidden status (I noticed that the links are completely gone now) I had to hide someone and then click the “Show Hidden Friends” that popped up in the window… as shown in this article. It’s the only way you can change the list right now.
Sooo frustrating.
Mark Green 3:49 pm on April 1, 2009 Permalink |
Has anyone figured out how to hide/unhide friends out of the Facebook BlackBerry App? I’m forced to unfriend folks that annoy me with updates, but I’d rather just hide them!
Dustin 3:53 pm on April 1, 2009 Permalink |
I’m wondering how you’ve managed to use the Blackberry app at all. I think I *might* be stuck with an old version because I find it unusable for anything other than uploading photos. Status updates for example still force me to start with “dustin (is)…”
Dany 10:50 pm on April 10, 2009 Permalink |
Hey ,can anyone tell if his friends are hiding his news feeds?
Dustin 12:30 am on April 11, 2009 Permalink |
Interesting twist Dany…. I’m pretty sure there’s no way to tell.
Kamran 1:33 am on May 28, 2009 Permalink |
Thank you very much. it works. lol
VJ-ATL 7:47 pm on July 10, 2009 Permalink |
Well, its pretty simple to unhide your friends. I finally figured it out. Go to the end of the news feed page. At the bottom right corner, you will see “options” menu which will pop up a screen showing all the feeds or friends that are hidden from your news feed. You may then select to “Add to news feed” button to add them back so that you can see their posts.
sjunkie 10:07 pm on July 29, 2009 Permalink |
damn.. i’m also looking for the option to hide a few (i’m lying a LOT) of overzealous updaters on my blackberry. I love em but damn it! its too much! stop with the updating!!! When will they fix this??!
kbryce 8:05 pm on October 17, 2009 Permalink |
I what to unhide the Farmville links on my facebook! Any ideas?? I hide it when I didn’t have time to have a farm but now have one and need to adopt 2 animals to get a ribbon but I need to do this through the entries! PLEASE HELP!
Dustin 2:05 am on October 20, 2009 Permalink |
I have no idea about Farmville. I’ve managed to successfully avoid that game!
Pat 1:36 pm on November 18, 2009 Permalink |
I accidentally hid farmville feed & i want it back if you get answer please tell me! Thank you ever so much
Jamey 12:22 pm on November 5, 2009 Permalink |
I’m with Dany… I’d like to know if I’m being hidden… There has to be a patch for that. Hackers, how about a hand?
Joel 7:04 am on November 23, 2009 Permalink |
I’d like to know if there is any way do discover if any of my friends are hiding me.
Michele Scheideman 11:24 pm on December 2, 2009 Permalink |
I am no longer able to see my neighbor’s farmville posts either. HELP!
Madeeha 12:07 pm on December 20, 2009 Permalink |
Hi.. m v worried tht my bf iz cheating on me haz been avoiding me & he haz smehow managed 2 appear offline 2 me on fb chat while he still remainz online 4 da rest of his friendz.. plz plz plz help me out n tel me if thr iz sme way tht i can find out if he iz appearing offline 2 me only….
Dustin 1:38 pm on December 20, 2009 Permalink |
Madeeha, If there’s a way to hide your status to only one person, I wouldn’t no how to do that. Sorry I’m not gonna be much help.
Madeeha 11:21 pm on December 20, 2009 Permalink |
Thankyou Dustin 4 ur trying 2 help… but m pretty sure tht u can create certain friend lists n appear offline 2 thm only while appearing online 2 the rest of the frndz… PLz GUYZ N GALZ…. NEED HELP HERE!!! m sure thr must sme way of finding out… msn yahoo n gtawk all hv been covered m sure thr must b a hacker whu haz found out 4 fb also……… DESPERATELY HELP NEEDED!!!!!!
Donna 5:19 pm on December 21, 2009 Permalink |
My son travels with his job and used to mention his whereabouts on facebook almost daily . Also another son would post and 2 daughter-in-laws.. No I feel like it’s all hidden from me. Nothing new has shown up in weeks. Is there a way to view those hidden files w/o contacted them?
Dustin 12:45 pm on February 14, 2010 Permalink |
As far as I know, if someone hides stuff from you, there’s really no way to see it as long as you’re logged in as yourself.